Single and Loving It????

Can Singledom be awesome?

We always hear so much about the merits of coupledom, but I want to remind you that singledom can have many wonderful assets.

1.  I have the whole queen sized bed to myself. The covers are ALWAYS on MY side and usually wrapped completely around me by morning. Of course I do have to share my bed with my kitty cat. It's strange that she often takes up more room than a man would.

2.  I can do what I want, when I want, without having listen to anyone else telling me what I SHOULD be doing. If I want to parade up and down Main Street waving a British flag chanting "God save the Queen!" I can and I will. I might get tackled by American enthusiasts or be eaten by a pack of coyotes, but it would still be MY choice.

3. It doesn't matter what I look like in the morning, noon, or night. I don't need to impress anyone with my beauty and great breath at 6 am, when all I want to do is drag around in my old moth eaten robe from the 90's.

4. Vacations are so much fun. There's nothing better than hanging out alone in a fancy hotel room with a bottle of champagne and a book. I can hang out all day at the Museum of Purple People Eaters, spend 2 hours in the Jacuzzi tub and have room service for every meal without having to watch Fox News....Not even once!

5. Going out to eat is great fun. Sitting by yourself at a table always draws the question, "Will someone be joining you?" or "Just one?" This last comment is always said with an incredulous look spiced with a dash of pity.

6. I don't have to cook anything I dislike, like cabbage or brussel sprouts. I can live on pizza and Chinese food without a thought of pleasing anyone else. Casseroles and BBQ's are a thing of the past :)


7. The toilet seat is always in the down position. My hands stay clean and my bottom stays dry. When I stumble in at midnight in the dark I don't plop down onto a recently soaked toilet. Why is it that after decades of practice men seem to be unable to aim for the water or put the toilet seat back down? I think if us women were blessed with a man's appendage, it would only take us to the age of 3 to actually hit our target.

8. Football is not on my itinerary. I prefer not to watch grown men chasing and attacking each other into submission in the name of sports. I can deal with baseball, and basketball, but please, no football.

9. Most importantly, I can wear my warm flannel pj's to bed in total comfort without an ounce of guilt. No more cutsie nighties that get twisted every which way, and are impossible to sleep in. I can't tell you how many times I have awakened with my thong wrapped around my big toe....and IT'S TIGHT. 

10. I only have one person to answer to about my excess weight, bad haircut or my third visit to traffic school. No more explanations about how I hardly eat anything, I need a new hairdresser or the police officer just doesn't like blonds. I know what the truth is, and the person I am always talking to in the shower (that would be ME) generally agrees with me. So HAH!

So the next time one of your coupled friends singles you out to tell you how great their life is, remember that happiness comes in all shapes and sizes. Your happiness may look different, but in the end happiness is happiness, pure and simple.

A funny thing happened on the way to my dating blog. I met somebody! 


It worked out for awhile, and I really thought we would be hooked up for life, but we ran into a few snags along the way. I won’t get into details here, but I will say that it involved a big spoiled dog, an ex-wife from Hell, and the IRS breathing down our necks.


So now I am back. Although I haven’t started dating again – yet anyway – I am considering it and doing the leg work. And what leg work, you might ask? 


Leg lifts and ham stretches aside, I am actually talking about checking out the online dating sites. They haven’t changed much since I last looked. What I see is a bunch of people just like me, that don’t really want to be there at all. They are just checking out their options, and that is the quickest and easiest one, right at their fingertips. We all hope for miracles at the snap of a finger. After all, isn’t that the norm these days – instant gratification? 


Finding dates through cyberspace seems tremendously less than ideal. I mean, what can you really tell about anybody from a few pictures strategically taken to hide flaws, such as excess weight or bad skin? Photoshop can camouflage just about anything these days. I don’t have it myself, so how can I really compete with all of the women out there who do use it, along with their pictures from glamour shots taken 10 years ago? Funny how these men don’t notice these things, but I guess they will find out when they actually get to meet these women. 


So now that I’m back, I will keep you posted on all of the crazy, fun dating experiences I have on my way to prince charming. Until then, please go back and look at some of my previous posts. You will be amused, entertained and even at times, a bit surprised. I would love it if you would leave comments, and if you sign up to be a follower, you will get notifications when I post my dating blunders.


Aloha, Adios and Goodbye for now.

May-December Romance

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Once upon a time . . .

It was really cool for an older man to date a young hot chick, but you never saw a hot older woman dating a young stud - unless she was rich or an actress (or both). Well, the times – they are a changing. Along with the birth of women’s liberation came equality between the sexes. It’s now quite common to see older women in relationships with younger men, and there’s no stigma attached.

Intergenerational Dating Sites

There are some great dating sites on the web that cater specifically to people who are trying to fill the generation gap. If you have the urge to skip summer and go directly to fall or spring, dig out your winter wardrobe and hit the slops!


itsjustanumber.com

This online dating site is just the ticket for anybody who wants to find out the benefits of a May-December romance. It’s free, it’s fun and it’s just a number! Don’t waste time scanning through 100's of profiles. Everything you are looking for is right at your fingertips.


cougarmingle.com

This site is totally free for cougars looking for younger men to date (there is a fee for men though). A cougar is defined as an independent, successful woman who enjoys the company of young vital men. Younger men who are interested in dating an older woman will find many choices here.


Other popular cougar dating sites include:

CougarLife.com
GoCougar.com
DateACougar.com
DateOlderWomen.com.

*This blog writer does not recommend any of these dating sites. Visit them at your own discretion.

A Single Red Rose

Photograph by Graur Codrin

"A rose for a rose.” he said with a wink and a smile.

The delicate red rose bud was perfect in every way. Things had been tense between them, and the gesture of love was just what she needed. The good feelings filled her heart to overflowing and made her smile. Reaching for the beautiful flower, Carey gushed, “I had better watch out for thorns.“ but as the flower touched her fingers it wasn’t a thorn that pricked her and her smile faded. The hard plastic scratched her hand, and the falseness of the gesture tore at her heart. Of course the flower was perfect. All phony flowers come out of a mold, identical to each other in almost every way.

Carey sniffed lightly at the flower and sighed." I had better put it in water. It smells so nice and we want it to bloom and flourish."

“ A puzzled look splashed across Mark’s face and his grin turned to a frown. “But honey, the flower isn’t real. Did you really think it was?”

A single tear trickled down her cheek, and she quickly dabbed it away. Carey thought about their relationship and how strained things had been. How real were his feelings for her? Although he professed to love her, and seemed to demonstrate his feelings in many ways, she had sensed a falseness about him and an emptiness in his eyes that hadn’t been there in the beginning. The fake flower, and the insincere gesture forced her to look at the situation realistically.

Carey leaned forward as she brushed the lock of hair from her eyes that had fallen out of place. Her look was pensive as she asked me “What do you think? Am I being overly sensitive? Maybe I’m looking at this wrong.”

The air was thick with negative vibrations but my own thoughts drifted to the many times that I had received velvet roses, stuffed bears and glass trinkets from my man. My own feelings were far removed from Carey’s as I had been delighted. How special it was that he had thought of me and wanted to bring me a gift. Why did she feel so differently? There had to be something more to it than just the falseness of the flower. Perhaps there had been other more important signs that the relationship was in peril.

“You should always pay attention to your feelings” I suggested. “There must be a reason you are thinking this way. Maybe some other problems?”

Carey sighed and looked away. I could see that I had struck a nerve and I heard the pain in her voice when she said, “I’ve tried so hard to get along with him. He is just so difficult. I don’t know what to do anymore.”

Are there times when we are oblivious to the signs…even when they are flashing like neon lights right in front of our eyes? Do we hear the alarms when they ring loudly in our ears? It’s important to be alert and aware. Ignoring the warning signs can cause small problems to grow into bigger ones which become harder to deal with.

Carey and Mark were able to work things out once they saw the problems and dealt with them. She keeps her artificial rose bud in a vase on her night stand along with the ceramic angel Mark gave her for Christmas and the singing dog she received on Valentine’s day. They are the last thing she see’s when she goes to bed at night, and they greet her at the beginning of every day. They make her smile and so does Mark.